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Jonathan Haber

Praise process, not innate ability

Acknowledge effort, strategy, and choices rather than "you’re so smart".

Key takeaways

  • What it is: Acknowledge effort, strategy, and choices rather than "you’re so smart".
  • Why it works: Praising fixed ability ("you’re so talented") can teach that results come from a trait you either have or don’t, making setbacks feel like proof you lack it. Praising the controllable process — effort, strategy, persistence — keeps the causal story on things you can change, which supports continued effort after difficulty.
  • Evidence: Backed by observational / correlational evidence.
  • Avoid: Swapping in hollow "good effort!" praise after failure regardless of what happened — process praise only helps when it points to a real, controllable cause.

Why it works

Praising fixed ability ("you’re so talented") can teach that results come from a trait you either have or don’t, making setbacks feel like proof you lack it. Praising the controllable process — effort, strategy, persistence — keeps the causal story on things you can change, which supports continued effort after difficulty.

How to do it

  1. 1When recognizing yourself or others, name the specific strategy or effort, not the talent.
  2. 2Tie praise to a controllable choice ("you tried a different approach"), not to a trait.
  3. 3Avoid ability labels even positive ones ("you’re a natural"), which set a fixed frame.

What the evidence says

Observational

Some studies (notably with children) found process praise led to more persistence than person/ability praise. However, the broader literature is mixed, and replication of mindset effects overall has been inconsistent.

Honest caveat: Process-praise findings are real but modest and not uniformly replicated; do not assume one phrasing change produces large or lasting outcome differences.

Common mistake

Swapping in hollow "good effort!" praise after failure regardless of what happened — process praise only helps when it points to a real, controllable cause.

IX Coach reflects your progress in terms of the specific strategies and effort you applied, not as a verdict on innate talent.

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