JH
Jonathan Haber

ACCEPTS — structured distraction from crisis

Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.

Key takeaways

  • What it is: Use Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, and Sensations to redirect attention during a crisis.
  • Why it works: Attention amplifies emotion: sustained focus on crisis pain intensifies it through re-activation and rumination. ACCEPTS does not deny or suppress the pain — it temporarily redirects attention elsewhere, giving the emotional response time to crest and begin to subside on its own. This is a short-term buffer, not avoidance, because it is time-limited and paired with eventual return to the problem.
  • Evidence: Established clinical or therapeutic practice.
  • Avoid: Using ACCEPTS indefinitely instead of returning to the problem — distraction is crisis-level first aid, not a permanent strategy.

Why it works

Attention amplifies emotion: sustained focus on crisis pain intensifies it through re-activation and rumination. ACCEPTS does not deny or suppress the pain — it temporarily redirects attention elsewhere, giving the emotional response time to crest and begin to subside on its own. This is a short-term buffer, not avoidance, because it is time-limited and paired with eventual return to the problem.

How to do it

  1. 1Activities: do something absorbing enough to require attention (a game, a task, a walk).
  2. 2Contributing: help someone else — it shifts the focus outward and activates a different emotional system.
  3. 3Comparisons: think of times you tolerated hardship successfully — evidence you can do it now.
  4. 4Emotions: generate a different emotion intentionally (a funny video, a piece of music).
  5. 5Pushing away: mentally set the crisis on a shelf for now, with a time to return to it.

What the evidence says

Clinical practice

ACCEPTS is a distress tolerance skill taught within DBT. The attention-redirection mechanism draws on cognitive and affective science showing that emotion is sustained partly by attentional focus. Contributing aligns with the "helper’s high" — prosocial behavior acutely improves mood.

Honest caveat: ACCEPTS is a bridging tool for crisis moments, not a long-term strategy. Overusing distraction instead of eventually addressing the source problem is experiential avoidance.

Common mistake

Using ACCEPTS indefinitely instead of returning to the problem — distraction is crisis-level first aid, not a permanent strategy.

IX Coach identifies which ACCEPTS category fits your situation and helps you engage it specifically, then sets a timer to return to the problem once the peak has passed.

Practice this with IX Coach →

Related practices