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Jonathan Haber

Let yourself be bored while waiting

When you are waiting — for coffee, in a queue, at a red light — leave your phone in your pocket and let your mind wander.

Key takeaways

  • What it is: When you are waiting — for coffee, in a queue, at a red light — leave your phone in your pocket and let your mind wander.
  • Why it works: Waiting is one of the few natural opportunities for the default-mode network to activate during a busy day. When people immediately fill the waiting gap with a phone, they suppress DMN activation and replace it with stimulus-driven attention (social media, news, video). Allowing waiting-state boredom permits the mental associations, future simulations, and self-reflective processing that DMN activity produces — the substrate from which creative and planning insights emerge.
  • Evidence: Backed by observational / correlational evidence.
  • Avoid: Substituting one phone activity for another ("I’ll listen to a podcast instead") — audio consumption also suppresses DMN and prevents the unstimulated state that productive mind-wandering requires.

Why it works

Waiting is one of the few natural opportunities for the default-mode network to activate during a busy day. When people immediately fill the waiting gap with a phone, they suppress DMN activation and replace it with stimulus-driven attention (social media, news, video). Allowing waiting-state boredom permits the mental associations, future simulations, and self-reflective processing that DMN activity produces — the substrate from which creative and planning insights emerge.

How to do it

  1. 1For one week, commit to leaving your phone in your pocket or bag during all waiting periods.
  2. 2Resist any urge to check — observe the discomfort of boredom rather than suppressing it.
  3. 3Notice what thoughts, memories, or ideas arise spontaneously.
  4. 4Keep a small notebook to capture any insights that surface during these waiting periods.

What the evidence says

Observational

Default-mode network research documents its activation during mind-wandering and rest, with associations to autobiographical memory, future simulation, and creative insight. Mind-wandering has been linked to insight problem-solving in controlled lab settings.

Honest caveat: DMN research is strong on activation patterns but the causal path from boredom → DMN → creative output is supported directionally rather than robustly established for practical applications.

References
  • — Christoff et al. (2009), experience sampling during fMRI reveals default network and executive system contributions to mind wandering, PNAS

Common mistake

Substituting one phone activity for another ("I’ll listen to a podcast instead") — audio consumption also suppresses DMN and prevents the unstimulated state that productive mind-wandering requires.

IX Coach includes a "waiting period" micro-practice — a prompted 2-minute phone-free pause that invites observation of whatever thoughts arise naturally.

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