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Jonathan Haber

Set explicit values-based rules for each technology you keep

For every digital tool you reintroduce, write down exactly which value it serves and under what conditions.

Key takeaways

  • What it is: For every digital tool you reintroduce, write down exactly which value it serves and under what conditions.
  • Why it works: Vague technology boundaries ("use social media less") fail because they convert each use instance into a willpower decision. Specific, values-grounded rules ("Instagram only on Saturday evenings for 20 minutes, on a desktop, to keep up with close friends") remove the decision from the moment of use and anchor it to a clear purpose — which makes deviations visible and meaningful rather than invisible drifts.
  • Evidence: Plausible mechanism, limited direct outcome data.
  • Avoid: Writing rules but never reviewing them — the rules need a scheduled reconsideration (monthly or quarterly) or they become invisible and drift.

Why it works

Vague technology boundaries ("use social media less") fail because they convert each use instance into a willpower decision. Specific, values-grounded rules ("Instagram only on Saturday evenings for 20 minutes, on a desktop, to keep up with close friends") remove the decision from the moment of use and anchor it to a clear purpose — which makes deviations visible and meaningful rather than invisible drifts.

How to do it

  1. 1For each technology you decide to keep, complete: "I use [tool] because it serves [value]. I will use it [time/context/duration/device]."
  2. 2Write these rules down and review them monthly.
  3. 3When you find yourself using a tool outside the rules, note it — this is information about whether the rules need updating or whether the tool should be removed.

What the evidence says

Mechanistic

Pre-committed, specific behavioral rules are significantly more effective than vague intentions at reducing impulsive behavior; this is consistent with the implementation-intentions literature.

Honest caveat: The implementation-intentions research covers goals broadly; values-based technology rules are a specific application of that mechanism.

References
  • — Gollwitzer & Sheeran (2006), implementation intentions, meta-analysis, Advances in Experimental Social Psychology

Common mistake

Writing rules but never reviewing them — the rules need a scheduled reconsideration (monthly or quarterly) or they become invisible and drift.

IX Coach helps you articulate your values-based technology rules and resurfaces them periodically so you can check whether your actual use matches your stated intentions.

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